Re:Ask HN: Are you friends with your manager?
by bpodgursky on Friday September 04, 2020 @05:08PM
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This really gravely misunderstands how teams are formed in a lot of growing companies.
5 new engineers start fresh out of college. They work directly under some VP of engineering. They become friends, as young people of like interests who work together every day are wont to do.
The company grows! Now you need to organize into an actual team. So someone becomes a team lead, and others stay ICs.
Do they now divorce themselves of friendship, since one is a manager and the others are not? No, that's stupid. They are friends where one is a manager.
Source: myself, and hundreds of thousands of other people who have been friends with their manager.
5 new engineers start fresh out of college. They work directly under some VP of engineering. They become friends, as young people of like interests who work together every day are wont to do.
The company grows! Now you need to organize into an actual team. So someone becomes a team lead, and others stay ICs.
Do they now divorce themselves of friendship, since one is a manager and the others are not? No, that's stupid. They are friends where one is a manager.
Source: myself, and hundreds of thousands of other people who have been friends with their manager.