Re:This Is What Your Unsolicited Advice Sounds Like
by roflc0ptic on Saturday August 29, 2020 @11:36AM
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My position is that giving bad advice is bad, giving unsolicited advice is usually bad, and that "there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so", which is to say that - when something painful happens, we suffer doubly by assigning a bunch of meaning to it and worrying about it.
Even though telling an individual who is catastrophizing to stop catastrophizing usually won't help them stop (and will often damage relationships), it is nevertheless the case that they'll be better off if they stop catastrophizing.
I took the time to write this here because it struck me that the people who would identify with this comic might benefit from the concept, and in a small way, hope that they can apply it to their lives to suffer a little bit less.
Better than giving unsolicited advice is gently sharing mental models that you think might serve a person better, and letting them make the choice to adopt them (or not).
Re:This Is What Your Unsolicited Advice Sounds Like
by Hnrobert42 on Saturday August 29, 2020 @09:42AM
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I agree with your points.
At the same time, I sm tickled by the irony of you giving unsolicited advice about not giving unsolicited. :-)
Re:This Is What Your Unsolicited Advice Sounds Like
by maxerickson on Saturday August 29, 2020 @10:09AM
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It could be worse. I commented on the necessity of it rather than making an active statement (Don't or you shouldn't or…), and there's no speculation about how the other poster acts.
Re:This Is What Your Unsolicited Advice Sounds Like
by roflc0ptic on Saturday August 29, 2020 @11:16AM
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Nah, I don't think it really qualifies as advice, just seems like sharing your perspective. Hypocrisy averted!
Re:This Is What Your Unsolicited Advice Sounds Like
by Hnrobert42 on Saturday August 29, 2020 @11:20AM
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No worries. I didn’t think it was bad. Just amusing in a meta kind of way.
Even more so to people that you don't know well.
You are overthinking the metaphors in the comic. They are just there to emphasize that the advice isn't doing the person receiving it any good (or is your premise that the person about to get hit by the semi will suddenly act differently having been encouraged to focus on the things they can control?).