I used to be an SF dev and honestly, the bubble is almost impossible to see past. I can't even describe it, like a combination of hyper-competitiveness and forced social norms in tech that make you blind to anything but the way that we do it in SF. There's like an attitude of "we have it better than anyone else" in a lot of people I meet.

Sometimes I like to mess around and tell them about programming consultants that chill out in Utah and make 500k/yr working maybe half the year (we're really insecure about salary up here) and see an existential crisis fly cross my friend's faces, it's priceless.