I think the key value of (our version of) democracy is the peaceful transition of power. For example from Clinton -> Bush -> Obama -> Trump. They all had very different views on what the country needed to do, but they all accepted that elections were how the future was decided and handed off power to someone they did not agree with.

In a monarchy or despotism, there is no transition of power by design. It is supposed to be difficult, because it is not wanted. So if you end up with the wrong choice it is very hard to correct.

A big part to this is that the voters have confidence in the result, hence they don't go around looting and starting civil wars.

Trump is scary. I am not of the US but: I fear if Trump wins. I fear the tantrum/insurrection of Trump if he loses in respect to a peaceful handover.

> you've found is a flaw with humanity, not with democracy

Well, yeah. BTW, I didn't say I have a better idea, I merely pointed out an issue.