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Re:Alcohol as a social technology to check the trustworthine... by saagarjha on Saturday August 08, 2020 @12:07AM (#24088860)
This is how you get people to hate you; it's the same reason vegans have a bad image.
Re:Alcohol as a social technology to check the trustworthine... by elliekelly on Saturday August 08, 2020 @12:32AM (#24088984)
Then maybe people shouldn’t ask why if they don’t want to hear the answer. I think it’s a rude question to ask so I don’t really have any pity for someone who finds themselves bored with the response.
Re:Alcohol as a social technology to check the trustworthine... by saagarjha on Saturday August 08, 2020 @12:40AM (#24089028)
Being rude to people who are rude (especially in cases that they don't realize that they are being rude) generally sours relationships, unfortunately.
Re:Alcohol as a social technology to check the trustworthine... by katzgrau on Saturday August 08, 2020 @09:04AM (#24091333)
That depends more on how you say it. Try not to invoke guilt. After all, you presumably like these people and don't want to make them feel bad - but you just don't want to drink. Guilt is where it can go wrong, so you kind of have to dance around it.
Re:Alcohol as a social technology to check the trustworthine... by saagarjha on Saturday August 08, 2020 @09:24AM (#24091458)
I have found it’s generally quite easy to say “I don’t like the way it makes me feel”, which is relatively guilt-free. A less-strong one might be “I don’t like the taste”. It helps that it’s true in my particular case, of course.
Re:Alcohol as a social technology to check the trustworthine... by balladeer on Saturday August 08, 2020 @12:30AM (#24088972)
Then that's rather pretty shitty of rest of us. The rest of us should just have someone's "No" and bugger off.
Re:Alcohol as a social technology to check the trustworthine... by saagarjha on Saturday August 08, 2020 @12:38AM (#24089017)
I happen to be excluded from your "we" ;) We would like it if people didn't do this, but it happens and it doesn't help us to be annoying. Especially in cases where people don't realize that they're prying being sanctimonious in response can come off as being unreasonably smug.