That’s not what I meant. What I meant is that if you want to convince others of opening borders and if you want to engage in political activities to promote policies that fit your moral compass but in which your fellow citizens will also share the consequences you should first live by them.

I had my share of colleagues in STEMS who are cynically pro-open borders and pro-immigration only because they are wealthy white dudes with valuable degrees and thus suffer little from the consequences but benefits from it on the sexual market (usually when going after asian or indian girls in the EU, add also hispanic girls in the US) and help them to work abroad in exotic destinations (Singapour, Taipei, Tokyo, ...).

And yes I generally consider that about abortion a woman’s opinion is more valuable than a man’s on that topic for obvious reasons and I am personally in favour of abortion in most cases.

Ideally we could discuss a topic without needing to take eachother's personal situations into account. The discussion space is large enough that drilling down to me as an individual seems a pointless distraction.

For what it's worth, I wasn't always a rich programmer. There may be a very specific reason I empathize very well with the plight of the proletariat ;)

That sexual advantage bit is really interesting to hear about. It drove me from Taiwan the first time I was there. Too many 40 year old white dudes preying on foreign women in the bars. Didn't want to become that, stuck as an English teacher. I'll chew on this new analysis.