How you 'attach' to people may explain a lot about your inner life

Re:How you 'attach' to people may explain a lot about your i... by raducu on Wednesday July 22, 2020 @06:16AM (#23915544)

I've been diagnosed with BPD.

I've seen three personal therapists and a couples therapist. They all helped and I learned some tricks from them, clarified things, my BPD symptoms have diminished, but they tend to do so with age without any therapy.

All therapists sucked in the same regard -- they fail to follow through -- I've heard so many times "oh, for this issue I know this great exercise and this great technique, we'll practice, bla bla bla", only to forget about it by the next session.

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Re:How you 'attach' to people may explain a lot about your i... by codingdave on Wednesday July 22, 2020 @07:53AM (#23915995)

I have seen a couple therapists as well. In my experience, their service is a partnership, not a one-way fix. If they forget something, remind them. If you are feeling something they aren't bringing up, bring it up yourself. Therapists are not parents who will carry you through your problems, they are advisors to help you see the problem and learn some techniques to help. You still need to do the work, which includes directing the conversation at times.

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Re:How you 'attach' to people may explain a lot about your i... by im3w1l on Wednesday July 22, 2020 @09:29AM (#23916734)

If the therapist doesn't have its shit together it undermines trust that they can help other people get their shit together.

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Re:How you 'attach' to people may explain a lot about your i... by dannyw on Wednesday July 22, 2020 @06:24AM (#23915585)

Also a BPD. I see therapists on and off. I’ll do a session every two weeks and then drop off, sometimes I’ll find a new therapist because I want something new.

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Re:How you 'attach' to people may explain a lot about your i... by raducu on Wednesday July 22, 2020 @06:40AM (#23915642)

That's not good and not bad. As far as I know, if you want to help with BPD by therapy, its better to have the same therapist, given you two have a plan to improve certain aspects.

I'm currently seeing a female therapists that runs some groups for DBT for BPD; but given that I'm (highly)functional and male(that's just me being mean), it's just 5% of the sessions(after an occasional flare up) that she acknowledges my BPD.

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Re:How you 'attach' to people may explain a lot about your i... by dannyw on Thursday July 23, 2020 @04:33AM (#23925355)

Yeah. I’m sad that men with BPD are recognised so much less... I had a psychiatrist in a big hospital tell me that my diagnosis is wrong because men can’t get BPD.

To whoever downvoted GP: please don’t unless you actually have experience.

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