Other websites use many different third parties. I've seen some sites use over 10 different analytics tools on top of other other ad networks.
It's still fair to complain about bloat and performance issues, but users generally load Gmail once per browser session, making a large, slow load more excusable than it is for say, CNN.
The old version of Gmail had 90% of the features and was at least 3x faster and more responsive.
If you load the new Gmail, immediately click the search when it's available and start typing it stutters and misses half of your inputs because they're totally pegging JS threads loading in all the bloatware. It's a far worse experience for almost no benefit (other than for the Google engineers who made the site 3x slower to use as leverage for promotions).
Google is the absolute last company to lecture anyone about website bloat.