Maybe time to look for my pension then! But no, I do not have the same experience; when I recommend someone (always seniors though; you sound like one), they do not have to do that. Another way to avoid (in recent experience) is to apply for positions as an agency (so a consultancy company which might be a one person company but looks like a pro outfit, website wise), work for 3 months (none of our people ever got interviewed: they trust us to have done that) and then apply for a job. Skip all the hiring bollocks as you already worked there and with the team etc. Again, not speaking for FAANGs.