And also, it's none of the other person's business. Why should they care about you, in particular? They're just some random person looking for a solution to their problem. They're not your fucking therapist. That's what friends are for.

If you don't like ripping yourself to pieces, get out of the rat race after 3 years working as a programmer and live on cheap land away from cities (if you're in the US), growing your own vegetables. It's a much better life.