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Re:Those who exercise free speech should also defend it even... by Udik on Thursday June 25, 2020 @05:51PM (#23646192)
> Relationship therapists teach couples to use "I" language vs "you" language to express feelings

On the other hand, when a statement is made about you ("what you did is wrong") you always have a chance to discuss the facts. When a statement is made about personal feelings ("I feel offended by what you did") no discussion is possible any more: I can counter your interpretation of facts, but I cannot possibly argue about your stated feelings. You won, period. This seems to me the danger of the "I language".

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Re:Those who exercise free speech should also defend it even... by loudtieblahblah on Friday June 26, 2020 @07:37AM (#23650861)
The point is to work towards mutualism. I language assumes you're both interested in moving forward together.

If you're not interested in moving forward together then I or you language doesn't really matter.

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