I am no Haiku expert but the Haiku's window manager does not support window composition and does not use GPU acceleration, right? It is also not modular and cannot be replaced.
You can disable composition on XFWM and make it run a little faster on lower spec hardware. You can also use a WM like i3, Windowmaker or Enlightment.
IMO, XFWM is the right balance between functionality and performance.
It indeed does not use GPU acceleration; Haiku as a whole does not have 3D drivers either (but there are plans.)
I think this is the "animations vs no animations" argument, maybe - I like them as they give context to my actions, but I imagine some people don't.
There are many themes inspired on macOS if you are aiming for that kind of look.
http://reddit.com/r/unixporn has a lot of that stuff. You can just go and grab someone else's configuration and apply it to your system.
If you are aiming for window effects with no regards for performance, try Compiz. You can add as many window effects as you want.
The UI on macOS to me feels frustratingly slow compared to XFCE. I've tried to disable animations, reduce motion and all the tweaks that can make it a little bit faster, but it remains being unacceptably sluggish.
And please abstain from downvoting unless you've at least tried XFCE and macOS enough in order to make an objective comparison.