The article itself is not starting a gender flamewar. The author is reflecting on her experiences. It's interesting. The flamewar starts when some users find parts of it activating and rush to the comment thread to reflexively vent their activation. Better options would be to reflect on one's own reactions long enough for them to turn into something thoughtful [1], or simply not to post. If you don't find it interesting, there are other things to read and discuss here.

[1] https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&que...