> except White Americans are not actually trying to come to terms with their history of racism against POC

I disagree. Tiktok is a comically shitty platform, but videos are flowing out of white kids having serious conversations with explicitly or passively racist parents. Sure, a small minority of white america, perhaps, but I don't think there's many white people left in America that aren't aware that something is happening. There were BLM protests in every state. I did a solo protest in Burlingame (absurdly full of old white people) and had tons of support from all the cars driving by and people walking around.

> which is why I think so many Whites are surprised/confused/whatever by the BLM protests

I'm not so sure - some white people are getting the shit beat out of them by the police because they turned up to a protest at the wrong time. Some are very personally starting to "get it."