Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows

Re:Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century,... by codezero on Friday June 12, 2020 @05:05PM (#23503918)

I just want to point out how so many of the responses to this thread (and the thread itself) are much more a lament of "others are doing X and I am not" - and jumping to conclusions as to why that might be. I also want to add that so much going on here is based on really thin anecdata about how other people are fucking on tinder and you aren't.

I don't see many people here talking about how they engaged in intentional self improvement.

You aren't owed a significant other, or sex. Nobody is. If you're not getting it, it's not because someone else was born hotter than you.

Stupid, ugly people fuck all the time.

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Re:Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century,... by swat535 on Friday June 12, 2020 @07:12PM (#23504857)

So you're basically ignoring all the data and studies regarding this issue and still decide to handwave the whole thread. We're talking about the impact of large percent of men not having sex on society and you're response to this is:

"Stupid, ugly people fuck al the time" and imply this is a non issue

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Re:Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century,... by codezero on Friday June 12, 2020 @07:46PM (#23505116)

Sorry, I should have had a clearer thesis:

I'm not seeing anyone proposing to explain the impact, or what they have done to offset any impact they perceive it is having on themselves.

The other person who replied to me pointed out that it's not fair for me to assume folks haven't already tried a lot - so that's fair. I'll go back to:

I'm not seeing the discussion here being about the results or the impact, except to lament their own personal woes, and to hypothesize things like a coming age of polygamy.

I'll come with some depth when others do, but I guess it's fair that I should probably have not bothered commenting in the first place.

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Re:Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century,... by deathgrips on Friday June 12, 2020 @06:46PM (#23504647)

>You aren't owed a significant other, or sex. Nobody is.

It's so interesting how whenever any man talks about romantic problems he is met with this feminist mantra "you aren't owed sex". Do you honestly think that's what we're talking about? If someone talked about how much it sucks that they don't have car and need to walk to work would you tell them "you aren't owed a car"?

I think people regurgitate this phrase because we can't ever acknowledge that sexual empowerment results in peoples needs not being met. It must be their fault, they must be sabotaging somehow. They must be sexists.

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Re:Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century,... by codezero on Friday June 12, 2020 @07:03PM (#23504791)

I think your comment is fair - and if I thought there was a dialog happening on this thread, I'd be happy to engage in one, but I've read through a lot of the threads, and I'm not hearing much about why people think a scientific study validates their personal feelings of loneliness, or what conditions are meaningfully impacting that loneliness.

I'm hearing mostly outward complaints about what other people are doing to them, and that's mostly why I left my comment - a counter point.

I do get that it's not so simple as "it's their fault" and I do appreciate you making that comment, it's worth thinking about this next time, but it's hard to always do when you don't feel like everyone is coming to the table with open minds and good intentions.

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