Yes, of course race and gender play a role. I think it's great that you want to help people feel less bitter. I think your approach of saying these situations are unimportant and should be ignored may help some women feel less bitter, but I know for many women that viewpoint just makes them feel more alienated.

Your race doesn't make your opinion invalid. I'm sorry if I implied that. What I was trying to say is that your race may or may not give you the right to derail a conversation about someone else's oppression.

I'd love to have a separate conversation with you about masculinity and the ways the patriarchy hurts men (including by encouraging violence, and through the prison system). But I don't think it has anything to do with the discussion of women's oppression in VC pitches.

You seem to be saying "Well I deal with oppression sometimes, and I deal with it this way, so women should deal with it that way too in this situation" and I'm challenging that equation. I don't think those situations (male/male violence and VC pitch harassement) are equatable.