What if I tell you that my parents did pay for my education? And they gave me a car when I was 16? Or they were fortunate enough to be able buy a computer when I was in elementary school, which definitely contributed to my interests today, many decades later? Am I still self made? Or did that give me too much of a "head start" so I'm not? Was it so long ago now that it doesn't matter?
TLDR: I agree, it's all subjective...
I'd personally say, me too in so many ways... I had my struggles with an early death in the immediate family but it did provide the money to support me into my early start!
Here's the thing - struggle or not I absolutely have been around poverty and have actually done a bit in advocacy in the area. I don't say this for a gold star - just to qualify what I'm about to say.
Being poor is hard. Like really hard. It's expensive in sooo many ways and I freakin' wish more of us had empathy for those people that are struggling in that situation. I see WAY too many folks on HN that are comfortable in highly-paid positions like myself that don't acknowledge these things and even sound angry in regards to how people are "suppose to be"... lemme tell ya... as someone with struggles - man sometimes it's really really hard. Even with some of the insane privileges that I've been afforded.
All-in-all ... I wish more people admitted "man I had a lot of help" regardless if it's a computer in elementary school, or investments in education, etc. I know this has a negative "SJW" spin to it these days, but man... I have been privileged. holy crap I've been privileged. Doesn't diminish my accomplishments, but we need to come to terms that as a society everyone should have as equal of a playing field as possible..!
My definition of "self made" is not important, my point is that everyone's definition is going to be different.
Here's the thing - I have no idea who you are, what your history is, and I can't make a single comment on the validity of how you got from point A to point B... that is outside of the above compliment really.
What I will tell you is that my anecdotal experience is that no one is out there admitting, "OH YEAH, my parents totally dropped $120k on my education, bought all of my cars, paid my rent, and gave me a free-reign credit card into my 30's." and ironically... I've ran into a TON of those people who self-identify as "self made" which is why I don't take the term seriously and see it as 100% subjective.
TLDR: "self made" is subjective as all heck. I can't comment on your life man - I have no idea who you are. I stand by my original comment that things are getting more difficult in regards to building wealth from nothing. I got snarky against a comment that seemed to just posit a book from the 90's as the entire content of a reply as if that's valid to any conversation.