Five-year-old boy stopped on highway driving from Utah to California

Re:Five-year-old boy stopped on highway driving from Utah to... by JshWright on Wednesday May 06, 2020 @07:26AM (#23089783)

Yeah, we've taught or kids those things from an early age as well, but I* think it's a bit early for an allowance. I think the biggest reason for that is not wanting to couple the idea of routine chores with the allowance.

There concept of routine chores (keep your room clean, help keep shared spaces clean, etc) should be well established before an allowance enters the picture. The allowance isn't for doing those things that are just a basic expectation of family life, and starting them both at an early age risks coupling them.

* This is my own personal opinion about our family, and not in any way a value judgement on differing approaches

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Re:Five-year-old boy stopped on highway driving from Utah to... by Pfhreak on Wednesday May 06, 2020 @10:11AM (#23091134)

We don't couple it to chores. Chores are something everyone does because it helps the family. We're trying to be intentional about not connecting those concepts.

I think we started "chores" when she was 3. Obviously a three year old doesn't really do much, but she showed interest in feeding the dog and folding some blankets so those became her chores. We make a point of having both parents visibly do chores together.

We'll see how effective this is in another ten years, I suppose.

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