Just realize you can both be right. Everything you say is true, but parent is also. Confidence and the projection of ability to get the job done is important. Also when you are 40+ chances are you are going to be hired as a senior developer who has influence on team culture, this makes confidence and positivity even more important.
Re:Rules of thumb for a 1x developer
by mixmastamyk on Thursday April 30, 2020 @10:59AM
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Sounds like you're arguing based on the "real world", where as the grandparent is based on people's perceptions of it. That perspective is widespread however, whether fair, accurate or not.
Re:Rules of thumb for a 1x developer
by ThrowawayR2 on Thursday April 30, 2020 @11:26AM
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Those things you list are pretty rare, though. And I say this as one who is both disabled and has seen more than anyone's normal share of bad luck.
Disclaimer: I'm saying this for your own benefit, but your comment comes across as incredibly naive, and I would never endorse you as an interviewer with this attitude.
There are life circumstances which one can literally not plan for, and which can derail even the most well-conceived of plans. Chronic illness, war, natural disasters, etc., all come to mind. Give all the examples you want regarding how one might conceivably prepare for one of those things, but it's pretty clear from your opinion that you've never experienced one of these yourself.