> It is not about shame, it is about responsibility.

Assigning personal attributes (responsible/irresponsible) like this is a sub-optimal strategy for improving human performance. It conflates what a person does with who they are. What a person does is malleable, and their performance can be improved with teaching, practice, better techniques, etc. Experienced teachers understand this and avoid turning a discussion about correctness into a discussion about character, as it's counter-productive, and reinforces the narrative that performance is based on innate character, not on hard work.