I'm sorry for what you have been through, are still going through and all that.

I spent some years homeless and I post as openly female on HN, which at least historically was overwhelmingly male.

I do my best to educate people here (about homelessness, being a woman online, etc) and I try to keep it as conversational as possible. People who want to be good and want to see themselves as good don't react well to being attacked and accused. It tends to close minds and, with it, doors.

I'm not trying to attack you nor criticize you. I'm hoping to empower you with a better methodology.

Long experience tells me you probably won't see it that way. I don't plan to argue with you about the choice I've made to comment here.

Here's wishing you fair winds for your journey going forward.