You’re not important to me but I want to meet with you

Re:You’re not important to me but I want to meet with you by vaidhy on Thursday March 05, 2020 @12:20AM (#22491169)

I am not too happy with the phrasing "Outside of a company there are two types of meetings; 1) When you want something from someone, 2) When they need something from you."

I like to think about my meetings as "1)Am I building a relationship? or 2) Is this a transaction?" If it is 1, then I would invest more of my time into this. I do not want to spend a lot of time in building a relationship with my plumber, even though I do want something from them.

I believe the author was thinking the meeting as a relationship building while the founder was treating as a transaction and hence the disconnect.

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Re:You’re not important to me but I want to meet with you by econcon on Thursday March 05, 2020 @03:48AM (#22491987)

There are people tho who want to form new relationships, they start out by doing some favour to you then they expect that you reciprocate it when it doesn't go the way they want it to go, they become your enemy resorting to threat or retaliation

Transactional relationships which don't carry over to future are much better. Only thing that should carry over is "trust" not favours.

This is commonly known as "nice guy" in popular culture these days.

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Re:You’re not important to me but I want to meet with you by GreenJelloShot on Thursday March 05, 2020 @12:55PM (#22496079)

“We’d love to partner with Steve on getting his frameworks and templates from his books – The Four Steps and The Startup Owner’s Manual – onto our product. Can you connect us to him?”

That sounds to me like the start of some sort of relationship. If the guy just wanted info from the book, then why not just read the book?

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