Re:A high school student created a fake 2020 candidate, and ...
by DoreenMichele on Friday February 28, 2020 @10:21PM
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That's a little like telling someone of color to just ignore systemic racism.
I've been here more than ten years. I literally spent years doing all the stuff people say to do here to network, get taken seriously, etc.
It wasn't working because I got treated differently by essentially everyone due to my gender.
I was literally homeless for nearly six years and frequently going hungry while being blown off and told sexism wasn't a real problem.
You no doubt mean well. As they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
Given that I appear to be the only woman to have ever spent time on the leader board, it doesn't appear to be me mishandling things. All the evidence suggests that I'm the most successful openly female member here in terms of getting accepted by the community, etc. And it has seriously sucked in a "The rampant sexism is going to help kill me" kind of way and this has been true for a great many years.
It's only in recent months that I'm beginning to get anything resembling what I wanted all along out if it. I'm quite clear this is largely due to my gender.
It's not really anything I care to discuss further. It gets me a great deal of flak to talk about all that. I've really gone to substantial pains under enormously difficult circumstance to minimize the focus on my gender and the BS I had to deal with because of it while being accused of making a big deal out of nothing, etc ad nauseum.
I've been here more than ten years. I literally spent years doing all the stuff people say to do here to network, get taken seriously, etc.
It wasn't working because I got treated differently by essentially everyone due to my gender.
I was literally homeless for nearly six years and frequently going hungry while being blown off and told sexism wasn't a real problem.
You no doubt mean well. As they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
Given that I appear to be the only woman to have ever spent time on the leader board, it doesn't appear to be me mishandling things. All the evidence suggests that I'm the most successful openly female member here in terms of getting accepted by the community, etc. And it has seriously sucked in a "The rampant sexism is going to help kill me" kind of way and this has been true for a great many years.
It's only in recent months that I'm beginning to get anything resembling what I wanted all along out if it. I'm quite clear this is largely due to my gender.
It's not really anything I care to discuss further. It gets me a great deal of flak to talk about all that. I've really gone to substantial pains under enormously difficult circumstance to minimize the focus on my gender and the BS I had to deal with because of it while being accused of making a big deal out of nothing, etc ad nauseum.