I can't help thinking how much effort would be saved if everyone wasn't so busy being busy while trying to seem somehow aloof it's pure toxicity I don't see anything good coming out of it but you're right YMMV you've only got one life to invest in doing whatever you feel is best
Whether I spend my day playing foosball and drinking kombucha with a bunch of ass dragging laggards or saving orphan refugees in a war zone I'll be equally tired when I get home to my family
After a decade or more of doing the same thing and having the same asinine conversations with an endlessly changing cast of quirky but equally uninvested dilberts I begin to ask myself my kids are stuck in daycare for this shit?
Some of us say meh life is but a born - work - die type of proposition just have another cup of company coffee for the road while others ask why the fuck are we still wearing clothes from the mall
That's the point dude why would you spend a whole life passionlessly working like an emotionless robot only to regret not being with your friends?
I recommend introspection as it relates to life choices and identity. Nobody cares about their job on their death bed, only wishing they had prioritized more time with friends, family, and loved ones. Work backwards from there, and optimize to be happy with what you valued and how you spent your life. A job generates income, but is not who you are as a human.
TLDR Treating work as just work, and not something of significant importance, is not toxic IMHO. On the contrary, it is the healthiest way to address it as a necessary (for now) part of our lives. YMMV. Good luck.