I think if you humbly said you’d prefer people to not use Discord you’d not get this backlash. But you’re making a demand - it’s rude and will instantly turn people against you before they really consider your arguments.

This is literally tone policing, though. Knock it off.

The argument against tone policing in a social justice sense is that people who are being wronged by society are allowed to be angry.

This person isn't being wronged. They just don't like the software other people chose to use in their projects which have nothing to do with the author of the blog post!

If someone tells you they're suffering racism you should listen no matter how it sounds to you. If someone tells you they don't like that you're using Slack and that you should not use it, you're right to tell them to sod off until they can be polite.

Criticizing someone for making demands, or pointing out that not making demands is more likely to actually accomplish what they want, is not tone policing.

You are more than welcome to not participate in any group that uses Discord, that is your choice not something that someone else is making you do. It isn't discrimination for a project to be using a tool that you don't want to use.

I am a member of a public, nonprofit organization that uses a tool that explicitly bans me, automatically, when I am trying to use it in a way that protects my privacy.

That sounds like a reason to complain to the management of that organization and see if they can work something out or pick a different tool, not write a blog post ranting about how much you dislike this company.

This blog post is precisely that complaint. Discord banned me and deleted my account when I sent them the link.

> I’m not telling anyone to do anything.

> I’m telling people what they should not do

Those two things are the same.