Nuances are lost on the internet? Because I've seen videos of him giving talks, and he acts pretty much the same way. What nuances are being lost?

Why do we excuse bad behavior from people?

Benevolent dictator

i happen to think that's the ideal government. it requires a dictator with the right qualities, and they are rare. Thus, what is possibly the 2nd best government type: democracy.

Like at Futarchy for an alterative model. (Though you could classify it as democracy.)

The problem, of course, is that what is considered "benevolent" is entirely up to the dictator to decide. That alone makes it a non-ideal government type.

No, it is up to the coherent extrapolated volition[1] of the dictator's people. (At least, it seems like a good guess.) What makes a government less than ideal is its failure to apply that volition. The question then is how hard a given type of governance is likely to fail.

Now I agree that for a host of reasons (like taking one's own volition for the country's CEV), dictatorships do not rank high.

[1]: http://singinst.org/upload/CEV.html

The point of a dictatorship is that the people don't have a say. The dictator does what he wants and portrays himself as benevolent through state-run media.