So much so, that I too eventually stopped with DSLR after losing it.
I actually like it so much, that I even use it since I switched to Linux recently. I have a Windows VM with one app installed that I boot up every month or so to process photos.
One of my favourite things about Aperture+PS was being able to spawn an edit process that, when you save the file in PS, created a duplicate version with the changes back in Aperture. The more I think about it, this was the secret sauce. Is this replicated in DxO?
Photos.app was a joke and Adobe was in the process of flushing their entire suite down the cloud, and shipping horrific bloatware for everything else. I probably should look into Lightroom but at the time it was just not an appealing option.
And the self-pity interpretation is off, but whatever. I guess we all like to be mad at the people we post at.
(You don’t even have to go that far yet, since you can still get Aperture working in Catalina, and Mojave and High Sierra are still viable options. But, for the future.)
Which is all a shame because I loved photography for a couple decades, and now I have small kids and I’m sure I’ll regret it, but it’s just such a pain in the ass to do these days if I don’t want my entire life tethered to services and data in the fuckin cloud.