In general, staging environments are the solution to cross service testing for Microservices. The expectation that a Microservice must be testable end to end locally is not one I would like to encourage. The whole point of splitting out a service this way is that individual services have very narrowly scoped, independent function and can be tested on their own, perhaps with mocked data.
One wouldn’t expect to run all of a companys entire pipeline locally on a single laptop. Expecting that for Microservices is similar.
There's nothing wrong with needing to run more than one thing while developing/testing and interacting. There are other options, but it's not a clearly bad approach.
That said, I would definitely lean towards Go or Rust myself if given the option (even though I have limited exposure to either) over Java. C#/.Net Core is in the middle imho. Even node works pretty well, but the tons of files thing bugs me sometimes. We're leveraging more node and C# where I work and I definitely prefer node... but for more services I do think that Go and Rust are probably better options.