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Re:An alternative argument for why women leave STEM by uncle_j on Saturday January 18, 2020 @01:14PM (#22085948)
> Well, the author is saying that she is considering giving up her career in reearch which she very much wants to pursue to have children because she can't find a way to reconcile the two.

I disagree. Unfortunately you have to make decisions in life on what you want to prioritise. You can't have your cake and eat it.

Also I don't consider having to make a choice harmful. Being harmed mean things like being assaulted, having your house robbed, being abused by your spouse. What it does not mean is coming to realisation that you may have to make a choice between family and career.

You know what does allow you to have both, wealth.

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Re:An alternative argument for why women leave STEM by Renevith on Saturday January 18, 2020 @05:39PM (#22087857)
> You can't have your cake and eat it.

Unless you're a man.

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Re:An alternative argument for why women leave STEM by uncle_j on Saturday January 18, 2020 @07:04PM (#22088345)
Not at all. I should have expected such a reply though tbh.

Many men work long hours and miss out on their family time. Also men typically work more dangerous jobs and are more likely to die on the job. They are also more less likely to win custody in separation. Men are more likely to commit suicide. Nobody has it easy and your sort of glib remark that ignores all the issues men currently face isn't helpful.

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