Now, spacetime geometry might be such that there exists space/time decompositions that allow us to attribute the shift to specific physical effects (relative velocity of emitter and absorber in case of special-relativistic Doppler shift, time dilation in case of gravitational shift in Schwarzschild spacetime, spatial expansion in case of cosmological shift in FLRW spacetime), but from the perspective of spacetime geometry, these are just specific instances of a general mechanism that is agnostic to such attributions.
If you can't explain what's in your head in plain English in answer to a question that was asked in plain English then there's not much point in answering.
I'm not getting the impression that you've answered my question, I'm getting the impression that you don't know how to answer my question.
General relativity comes with a generic mechanism to compute frequency shifts. We don't need to try to figure out whether or not the effect is due to time dilation or spatial expansion, we can just do the math. But if we're lucky, we can find a way to split up space and time that allow for such intuitive interpretations. However, that's window dressing, so to speak.
All this assumes that the spacetime in question is already known, but that's how it actually happened historically: Friedmann and Lemaitre derived their solutions by imposing certain symmetries on the problem. From that, you can derive observations like redshift (Lemaitre had already done so by 1927, ie two years before Hubble published his paper), which you then compare to observation in order to fix the parameters of your model, or scrap it if it cannot accomodate observation.
As far as I'm aware, at no point in time did a physicist sit down and think "I wonder, what's the best way to incorporate redshift into my model, time dilation or spatial expansion?".
Now, if there is a failure to understand your answer the reason why lies with me :)
(If it doesn't fit, then it's just wrong.)
I have this odd notion that the universe has stayed the same "size" (since inception) and that the parameters of the universe and the amount of matter/information has changed over time.
The impression we get (from our perspective) is that of an initial singularity, a period of hyper inflation, and then the expansion we have now.
Probably bollocks but I'd like to know why it's bollocks.
Time everywhere is slowing down (speeding up?) Which it's why the expansion of space seems so perfect to neither accelerate nor decelerate.
My gut tells me that the layman's model I have of the universe precludes me from having a handle on why the idea is dumb. I console myself with the knowledge that at least I'm not so dumb that I think the idea is l33t and the whole scientific community are morons. Still, it'd be nice to have an answer.
How do we tell the difference between the expansion of space and the dilation of time?
Given that space and time are crudely specking intertwined (spacetime) how do we know that the effect we see -- redshifting -- is due to the spatial expansion at every known "point" and not the temporal expansion (contraction?) at every known moment? Could not the spatial size of the universe be constant and its "clock" be being distorted?