Ask HN: What has been your biggest “a-ha” moment and how has it changed you?

Re:Ask HN: What has been your biggest “a-ha” moment and how ... by downerending on Monday January 06, 2020 @12:53PM (#21971245)

Read a well-known academic text on sociobiology (no longer recall title), and provided real enlightenment for me on how romantic relationships work. Took a while, but now in a marriage that's aligned with those principles, and it's working out really well.

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Re:Ask HN: What has been your biggest “a-ha” moment and how ... by tomasdore on Monday January 06, 2020 @01:32PM (#21971660)

This sounds almost as intriguing as Fermat's scribbles in the margins.... "Got a great proof, no room here, brb" (I paraphrase). Hope it comes back to your mind!

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Re:Ask HN: What has been your biggest “a-ha” moment and how ... by downerending on Monday January 06, 2020 @02:11PM (#21972090)

Looking on Amazon, I think it was probably one of Edward O. Wilson's books. Probably "Sociobiology: The New Synthesis".

I was particularly struck by the typical behaviors of mates in primitive societies, and especially patterns that indicated a partner was unhappy in a relationship and/or trying to get rid of their mate.

We're not so far away from those that came before.

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Re:Ask HN: What has been your biggest “a-ha” moment and how ... by tomasdore on Saturday January 11, 2020 @04:41AM (#22019092)

Thanks for replying with the potential book title! I'll take a look at it!

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Re:Ask HN: What has been your biggest “a-ha” moment and how ... by wortelefant on Monday January 06, 2020 @01:58PM (#21971942)

"the blank slate" or other texts from Stephen Pinker come to mind, though the connection to relationship insight from sociobiology is rather hazy

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