since kids are in Russia i highly doubt that.
false dichotomy. this isn't a choice between not doing it and doing it absolutely always. i'm not claiming we need to spend all of our energy.
i think today we spend very little of our energy optimizing for any kind of empathy let alone marginal. so any increase is still well within manageable (in terms of cost).
Googling something like "quora autistic empathy" will give you plenty of informed posts about the subject. I recommend reading the ones written by actual autistics.
Here are a few examples:
- https://www.quora.com/How-do-you-think-autistic-people-deal-...
- https://www.quora.com/Can-autistic-people-be-empathetic
- https://www.quora.com/Can-people-with-ASD-Asperger-Syndrome-...
https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/sympathy-empat...
the implication is that even though i haven't had my mother murdered i can simulate the experience and thereby relate (to an extent) to someone that has and make decisions with those insights in mind.
Edit: I just realized that what you probably meant is that if it's never happened to me then I can't genuinely be concerned. I didn't even know that that was something people believed. Interesting. Why would anyone pretend to be concerned for someone else's wellbeing?
is it really that difficult to attempt empathy?
imagine being one of his kids, growing up to become a developer, and then having to work on code that intersects with reiserfs.