Yes, there's the self-driving stuff, and there have been some egregious examples, but those systems also save lives by preventing accidents. Lane departure warnings, automatic braking, and electronic stability control all, on the balance of things, make driving much safer.
Braking systems have been partially modulated by software for decades, i.e. ABS, TCS, ESC.
Additionally, other software controlled systems can induce mechanical issues. For example, in the case of the Toyota unintended acceleration debacle, an engine at WOT typically does not produce vacuum. However, power-assisted brakes almost universally are vacuum-powered. So, if the software-controlled throttle gets stuck wide open, you lose power-assist to the brakes.
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The whole point of my comment was to put to bed the irrational fear of flying. You are still more safe travelling long distances in a faulty flight system such as the MAX than you are by car. There are just too variables to account for in cars, one of which includes increased software complexity.
Secondly, what are the exact figures you're using to show that the 737 MAX is safer than cars? And now compare it to other planes, the more realistic comparison? I'm not taking planes to places that are within driving distance. The 737 MAX was waaaay less safe than other planes.
But one-off car fatalities that kill 1-3 people happen regularly and they add up. The self-driving variety pop up with the highest visibility but if you go searching you'll find tons of accidents where brake failure at highway speeds cause a fatal crash.
I do concede that distracted driving and alcohol play a much bigger role in the large amount of car fatalities than software flaws. But I still stand by my original assertion that you are more likely to die due to the effects of a software flaw in your car than due to a software flaw in the 737 Max.