I self hosted with bitwarden_rs a slimmed down version of the API server that runs fast. I found some tutorials online there are lots) and host it on a very small cloud instance. (google cloud f1-micro)

All in all, it took me an hour of time, and 13 dollars to buy a domain since I didn't already have one.

Now I need to permanently move my wife off of lastpass to bitwarden, so I can see how the shared folders work, etc.