You could list any two random things and say "yes those two things suck". If one person got mugged and another was short on bus fare, yes both would suck, but the comparison is wildly out of proportion. Not only is the impact much different, but the whole context is different. And it's especially frustrating and inappropriate when it's used to downplay an important issue.

There are good arguments that the situation is worse for men. The Contrapoints video on incels goes over it well.

I could easily say it's like comparing having a hard time losing weight because you have so much free food available to being homeless and starving.