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Re:Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy... by zozbot234 on Monday November 25, 2019 @11:14AM (#21629471)
This is silly, you can't expect to screen out bad actors in a brief online conversation, least of all via text. You should arrange to meet at a safe, neutral place that provides its own (formal or informal) physical security.
Re:Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy... by wccrawford on Monday November 25, 2019 @11:28AM (#21629728)
I think you haven't seen some of the creepy or horrible stuff that some men say on dating apps. Some of the women I dated would tell me about them.

While you can't guarantee a good date, you can at least eliminate the worst and unsafe-est dates by a little messaging.

I dated for a while on various services before choosing OKCupid and sticking with it. I talked to and dated several women before I met the woman who is now my wife.

That included some chat up front, then picking a safe, public location to meet and do something. I'm lucky to live in Orlando, so it was very often a theme park. If either of us were unhappy, we could just go our separate ways and be done. (Thankfully that never happened to me.)

Re:Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy... by LorenPechtel on Monday November 25, 2019 @01:22PM (#21631109)
No, you can only eliminate the ones that are bad at hiding that they are creeps.
Re:Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy... by angry_octet on Monday November 25, 2019 @04:12PM (#21632875)
True. It does make dating seem like an endless Voight-Kampf test though.

https://www.bfi.org.uk/are-you-a-replicant/

Re:Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy... by nabnob on Monday November 25, 2019 @12:37PM (#21630589)
You definitely can.

Creeps have a hard time hiding the fact that they're creeps. If I'm talking to a guy on a dating app and he immediately tries to steer the conversation towards sex, my body, how horrible women are, and shows zero interest in actually getting to know me then I know he's someone to avoid.

Re:Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy... by hombre_fatal on Monday November 25, 2019 @01:26PM (#21631149)
Also, someone on a dating app can be anyone.

Even taking a shower, putting on decent clothes, and showing up in person to a bar is a massive filter that dating app conversation doesn't have. This is one of the fundamental trade-offs of meeting people online vs in person.

Re:Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy... by notahacker on Monday November 25, 2019 @02:54PM (#21632089)
You can screen out some of the weirdos in a brief online conversation. Which is a significant improvement on none of them.

As an added bonus, you also get to screen out all the people that don't really care enough about their potential date's feelings to exchange a few messages, and all the people that are saying yes to too many dates to even notice conversation threads never mind show up.

Re:Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy... by hombre_fatal on Monday November 25, 2019 @01:24PM (#21631130)
> This is silly, you can't expect to screen out bad actors in a brief online conversation, least of all via text.

https://old.reddit.com/r/creepyPMs/