Speech that's meant to demean or harm others? Who judges the intentions and what criteria is used to make that determination?

I find the claim that there are not clear double standards within this context to be indefensible.

Is wearing a MAGA hat in public hate speech?

Is telling someone their opinion doesn't count because of "white privileged" or "the patriarchy" hate speech?

What about calling evangelical's red neck climate change deniers?

You see, I've never encountered anyone that's vocal in this realm to apply their own standards logically and objectively.