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Re:Basic Social Skills Guide (2012) by photonemitter on Thursday November 21, 2019 @06:15AM (#21593066)
This is covered in the book «games people play» (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Games_People_Play_(book)) under the name «why don’t you? yes, but...»

In some cases People aren’t looking for the advice/solution, as much as the recognition that they have a problem... person A tells a problem, person B suggests ways to resolve the problem, to which person A has to give/come up with a reason why that solution won’t do. We then repeat this until a stalemate is reached, and everybody can acknowledge that person A is justified in their feelings about having a problem...

So on the flip side; your example seems to be a misinterpretation of this game. I.e. some person who’s played this game, and learned that this is what to do, meets a frustration where you’re not playing along with it... (maybe)

Short order solution; don’t play that game with people who don’t have a healthy relationship with frustrating problems.

Re:Basic Social Skills Guide (2012) by sejtnjir on Thursday November 21, 2019 @07:43AM (#21593503)
Bernian games are situations where the initiator is looking for a pay-off (eg. validation). The parent's comment is not about such a situation.