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Re:Basic Social Skills Guide (2012) by dustingetz on Wednesday November 20, 2019 @03:43PM (#21588278)
I think you can skip #2, if you're trying to help then this is about them, it's not about you, so probably the word "I" can be removed from your vocabulary for the rest of the conversation. Algorithm for nerds is: ask questions, repeat back what you heard. Also works in sales!
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Re:Basic Social Skills Guide (2012) by RussianCow on Wednesday November 20, 2019 @06:02PM (#21589568)
It depends on the context. If you have had a very similar experience, it can help to share that they are not alone in their feelings. But reaching for straws to try to draw a similarity where none exists isn't helpful.
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Re:Basic Social Skills Guide (2012) by beckingz on Wednesday November 20, 2019 @04:50PM (#21588950)
If you've actually had a similar experience, that can be validating to share.
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