Basic Social Skills Guide (2012)

Re:Basic Social Skills Guide (2012) by wisty on Wednesday November 20, 2019 @02:24PM (#21587446)

In Chinese culture, there's a big thing about your true friends being the ones who will tell you when you're wrong. A coworker, on the other hand, is not your responsibility, it's their life they're screwing up.

Of course, that doesn't mean people like it.

Personally, I will eventually give advice to people if they're venting. I'll make it polite, of course. If they don't want to fix their shit, then I'm not obliged to listen to it.

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Re:Basic Social Skills Guide (2012) by thisisnico on Wednesday November 20, 2019 @03:40PM (#21588252)

The best advice I've ever been given is when I didn't ask. Honestly trying to please people doesn't always help them out. Being the bad guy can help them more than sulking with them. A good friend will care more about you than what you think of them.

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Re:Basic Social Skills Guide (2012) by procombo on Wednesday November 20, 2019 @06:10PM (#21589619)

This exactly. I spent most of my professional career actively SEEKING feedback at every turn. So it's kind of a relief when someone offers "free" advice, even when it's personal.

While it's rarely very useful, and sometimes annoying, it's not something people expect me to be offended about. If it's really not that useful the conversation changes quickly. It's usually just a window into another's frame of mind. I welcome it.

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Re:Basic Social Skills Guide (2012) by b0rsuk on Wednesday November 20, 2019 @07:53PM (#21590394)

In Poland, we have a proverb "One gets to know his true friends when he's poor." A true friend will be with you in times of need, a false one will break ties.

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Re:Basic Social Skills Guide (2012) by jwilk on Thursday November 21, 2019 @03:15AM (#21592292)

Many languages have similar sayings:

https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/a_friend_in_need_is_a_friend_...

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