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Re:It’s Not Enough to Be Right – You Also Have to Be Kind by beefhash on Saturday November 09, 2019 @11:35AM (#21492460)
> Somehow as I grew older (starting in my mid-30s I suppose), I became more and more aware of how I was affecting other people with my choice of words, and I had less and less reasons to "defeat" people in conversation. When victory is no longer the objective in a discussion, you tend relax, and can choose your words more carefully.

Without trying to invalidate what it is you're saying: Would it be false to say that, you have also realized that how you say things will have consequences on your personal reputation and may be subconsciously taking them into consideration as well?

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Re:It’s Not Enough to Be Right – You Also Have to Be Kind by kstenerud on Saturday November 09, 2019 @11:39AM (#21492492)
Most definitely this would be a part of it, but only when dealing with people with whom you'll have recurring interactions, or within your tribe (where word gets around).

Online this tends to disappear (at least to our perception). When there's no face-to-face interaction, we seem to lose that reputation instinct rather quickly...

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Re:It’s Not Enough to Be Right – You Also Have to Be Kind by brudgers on Saturday November 09, 2019 @12:47PM (#21492912)
There’s nothing wrong with being known as the type of person you want to be. It’s a side effect of being a version of you that you like. Of being able to live with yourself.
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Re:It’s Not Enough to Be Right – You Also Have to Be Kind by adjkant on Saturday November 09, 2019 @11:38AM (#21492479)
Not OP but 100% no for me. The difference here really is motivational difference of empathy vs selfishness. I think if you've learned the latter there's still much to be gained, even if the actions in this specific case are the same.
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