Not dissing your comment, just pointing out that the committee is not just aware of the problem but slowly doing what it can to address them. C++17 and C++20 have a bunch of features to improve both of these factors.

There are also a number of features not really intended for user code designed to help make libraries faster, and more stable. The downside of course is, well, just look at library source. But really the source to the C standard library has similar issues.

I don't like header-only libraries because they slow down compilation, and slowly the trend is starting to abate.