Stop quoting people and stating that the opposite of what they say is true. You just did it again, after the parent pointed out that doing so is problematic.
You can state your exact same opinion without it coming across as dismissive just by stopping that one thing.
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> has given the Elm community a bad reputation
The Elm community is actually very welcoming. Not sure where you read about that reputation. I was also struggling a lot when I started, and the slack channel is extremely helpful. So you can go there, ask those questions and see if the above are true or not.
Not sure how to address them in a more constructive way.