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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by endymi0n on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @02:49AM (#21267733)
Heuristics in action. I can‘t possibly number all the different BS methodologies and frameworks that were supposed to do something, every time.

Applicable and actually highly successful ones like NVC are few and far between.

Can‘t blame anyone who smells a fad on hearing it the first time, but I‘m also using NVC by now whenever I need to untangle difficult conversations.

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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by ngold on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @03:55AM (#21268062)
Violent communication is hitting someone to make a point. The name of this is insulting.
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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by DEADBEEFC0FFEE on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @05:10AM (#21268445)
Violence isn't always physical.
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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by mathw on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @08:04AM (#21269456)
Indeed. I'm also fairly sure that calling it non-violent communication was no quick decision and was at least partly chosen to make us consider whether our usual methods are in fact violent and thus harmful.
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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by tomashubelbauer on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @06:04AM (#21268729)
I agree with this but I still think it is a bad name. Maybe something like non-aggressive communication would fare better?
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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by homonculus1 on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @07:55AM (#21269392)
Violence is always physical, by definition. Sometimes the word is also used for poetic effect though.
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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by bovermyer on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @09:27AM (#21270073)
May I refer you to the second definition of violence, per Merriam Webster?

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/violence

Violence, by definition, is not always physical.

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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by temp1999 on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @03:08PM (#21274184)
The same dictionary that defines literally as both literal and not literal. Dictionaries are descriptive not prescriptive, and so they also account for incorrect but common usage.
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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by munmaek on Thursday October 17, 2019 @09:28AM (#21281786)
If enough people use literally in that manner than it is indeed correct. This is how language works, regardless if you like the change or not. Languages are always evolving and dictionaries reflect that.
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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by bovermyer on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @07:57PM (#21277480)
In the same vein, language is constantly in flux, so defining a thing as "just so" is at best a temporary accuracy.
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