But Apple has taken some responsibility for this by knocking out third party MDM apps that served this purpose (like OurPact) and then replacing it with a half-finished piece of work that suffers from multiple usability problems.

As a parent, I'm taking responsibility for my kids' time and development by making sure the Skinner box is turned off until homework and chores are completed. I don't feel that's outsourcing my work as a parent - it's just one more tool in my toolbox among many.

You may disagree and you're raising your own kids differently, and that's just fine.