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Re:How bullying may shape adolescent brains by astura on Thursday October 10, 2019 @12:39PM (#21216549)
Parents are the absolute worst bullies. I'm not saying every parent bullies their children, I'm saying the ones who do the bullying is much worse than anything peers can dish out. And it's more persistent and impossible to escape. Then they turn around and act normal in front of other people so the fucked up kid looks like the bad guy to outsiders.

From as far back as I can remember until I left for college my mom berated me day in and day out about how my of a piece of garbage I am, how I ruined her life, how literally everything I did was wrong, and how I'm the reason my dad is an alcoholic. Despite me being a good kid who never got into any trouble.

I was bullied in elementary school, middle school, and summer camp for being a runt (literally off the growth charts) but it didn't actually bother me, I already learned that I was garbage from my mom.

Been through years of therapy... I don't think I'll ever be able to really recover, the best I can do is move forward.

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Re:How bullying may shape adolescent brains by ekanes on Thursday October 10, 2019 @06:26PM (#21219820)
I'm very sorry this happened to you.
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Re:How bullying may shape adolescent brains by jader201 on Thursday October 10, 2019 @08:47PM (#21220589)
So sorry you didn’t have it better. Parents should be the absolute opposite of a bully.
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Re:How bullying may shape adolescent brains by astura on Friday October 11, 2019 @11:21AM (#21225230)
I'm not sharing my experience for sympathy, I'm sharing it to challenge the "parents are basically Jesus" narrative of society. If an adult child doesn't provide care for their parents (or even limits contact with them) then society thinks the child is the asshole. Yet it's been my observation that 9 times out of 10 the asshole is the parents, not the broken and innocent child. We have to navigate both the severe emotional turmoil the parents caused and the (sometimes severe) societal disapproval of distancing ourselves from the toxic relationship.
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