In saying this, you are doing exactly the thing that I've been called a bigot for. You've excluded me from "we" because I do see religion as fundamental to my identity. In fact my identify is first and foremost defined by the my maker and redeemer. If the God who made the very material from which I am made and breathed breath into my body isn't allowed to be a core part of my identity, then what is? Just because you believe I'm wrong about those facts doesn't give you the right to force me to affirm your view of them.
A question was asked, then it was answered by the only party who can give an accurate answer.
This vote demonstrates to me the animus towards people of faith. This is an example of the wrong-headedness in how we approach disagreements. Conform or leave.
As for respectful disagreement, far as I can tell, concerning pronouns, if people see discussion as tantamount to disrespect, it is often because they believe that the overwhelming majority of people who insist on pronouns should be taken in good faith. There will always be people who use discussion as an excuse to in fact disrespect. It is a difficult issue and I really don't know what to think.