But dating sites are there for those who are generally bad at that. The requirement of marketing 101 to be successful on a dating site kind of defeats the purpose.
Let's see if we can apply this to filling a job. You need to do marketing.
Let's see if we can apply this to selling a watches in a store? You need to do marketing.
Let's see if we can apply this to selling your specific CBD online? You need to do marketing.
Why would you think that dating would be different?
Dating sites are the top of the funnel. You still need to close the "sale". To do that one has one of the two options: time to experiment and develop sales tactics or have the needed resources. I do not know what Evan's "style" was if any but him being a billionaire definitely helped to close the deal with Miranda.
The experience of women on dating sites is this: lots of messages from men that basically say (often exactly this): "Wanna fuck?" Like, that's the whole message. Except there's almost always multiple misspellings, no matter how short the message is. So it's more like "U wanna fuk?". And then those men go on their local message boards and complain that no one is responding to that pithy, well-crafted message and they can't find a spouse to settle down with and raise a family.
Put some effort into it. Wear a collared shirt. Brush your hair. Take a shower. Spellcheck. Find your smartest friend to help you make your profile. Don't pick things off your feet and eat them. Try to be funny.
It's really not that hard. Lots of humans have successfully mated with other humans. You can too!
[1] https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-ame...
The overwhelming majority did so without the use of online dating. I think that speaks more to the quality of online dating than anything else.
Your response is quite illustrative of reactions men have to observations on this topic the women make -- they do not like it. They especially do not like the implication: in this specific situation men just don't bring enough to the table to make them interesting enough for a woman to engage with.
Just look at @TinderNightmares. That is men's competition. That's what men are failing at exceeding. Let that sink in.
The images and the bio on a tinder profile has to so bad that women quite literally pick people whom women pretty much know will interact that way because even that is better than the alternatives.
You are on HN. There are hundreds of posts about negotiations and evaluation of available options. BATNA is thrown around in every one of them. I am baffled that people continue to pretend that it just does not magically apply to dating.
Your profile is your pitch deck. If no one wants to fund you, you should ask yourself if you need to change your pitch deck if you are convinced that your idea has a merit. Or maybe you can follow the HN startup advice and pivot to something else.
If doing the same thing over and over again does not achieve the desired result, one is ought to adjust approach.