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Re:Ask HN: Are you ok? by asdkhadsj on Thursday September 12, 2019 @11:40AM (#20952735)
That question (and all variations of it) give me stress just thinking about answering lol.

I immediately begin to micro-analyze what the likely outcome would be for each scenario. Does these get recorded, and reflected upon to judge my ability? Will it spread? What will the 1on1 manager think of me? If I answer 4-5 am I not capable? If I answer 1-2, are they going to think I'm more capable than I am, and overwork me?

etc etc. Probably not a fault of the question / approach.. just how I operate. Every move in life is a chess move.. and it's stressful.

You'd think I'd be further along in life with that attitude. Yet, it's a fairly recent (~10years) adjustment.

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Re:Ask HN: Are you ok? by carapace on Thursday September 12, 2019 @12:11PM (#20953170)
I Am Declaring War on STRESS! Denholm The IT Crowd | Series 1 Episode 2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MZTvMYQSl_w

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Re:Ask HN: Are you ok? by WrtCdEvrydy on Thursday September 12, 2019 @03:18PM (#20955271)
We had someone answer 5 because they had just had a family member die... I asked him if he wanted to apply for bereavement leave.. he declined because he wanted to immerse himself in work.

I kept up with him until he felt at around a 3 and then I asked him to take bereavement then... he kept sending me pictures of his WoW Classic character doing quests during his vacation... love that guy.

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