Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditional love

Re:Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditiona... by qwerty456127 on Thursday August 29, 2019 @03:41PM (#20832884)

BTW, if you love somebody conditionally and would stop loving and withdraw your commitment in some theoretically possible case (like if the person you love becomes ugly, you find out they are cheating or they roam the city killing kittens at night while you're asleep) then you are not actually loving them, you just enjoy the combination of traits they currently possess.

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Re:Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditiona... by izzydata on Thursday August 29, 2019 @03:52PM (#20832970)

That's a nice sentiment, but everything you believe is conditional. I doubt there is literally no changes that could ever occur that would change your mind about anything including love.

Perhaps the likelihood of those things are close to zero, but that doesn't mean it isn't in the realm of possibility. Although I suspect it wouldn't be that difficult to introduce a change that would trigger one of those conditions.

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Re:Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditiona... by qwerty456127 on Friday August 30, 2019 @05:01PM (#20842681)

I agree. Perhaps someone might use some kind of drug or whatever to erase my memory about the choice I've made to love that particular person no matter what.

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Re:Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditiona... by yarrel on Thursday August 29, 2019 @05:10PM (#20833707)

If you love someone regardless of their abuse of you or others then you are codependent, not loving.

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Re:Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditiona... by klyrs on Thursday August 29, 2019 @06:55PM (#20834511)

This. You must love yourself, and that means protecting yourself from harm -- whatever the source.

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Re:Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditiona... by qwerty456127 on Friday August 30, 2019 @04:57PM (#20842657)

You must not anything. Although doing is limited with laws and situations, feeling is not - you are absolutely free to feel or not to feel whatever you want. Hard situations may make it difficult to feel pleasant things but it's all about training (in mindfulness) and intention.

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Re:Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditiona... by mirimir on Thursday August 29, 2019 @04:14PM (#20833170)

I've had a few people ~like that in my life. I still ~love them all. It's just that I'll no longer have anything to do with them.

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Re:Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditiona... by qwerty456127 on Friday August 30, 2019 @05:03PM (#20842697)

Perfectly legit. Some people may be just impossible to live or do anything with for you so you might leave them for their own good as both of you would just struggle together. There are people and places which are much more joy to love remotely :-)

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Re:Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditiona... by saagarjha on Thursday August 29, 2019 @05:25PM (#20833860)

Using your definition, the only people who can try love others are those who love everyone. Everyone else loves people that possess qualities that they enjoy and hates people that don’t possess those things, and will stop doing so once a person changes enough to shift from one side to the other.

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Re:Beyond reason: the mathematical equation for unconditiona... by qwerty456127 on Friday August 30, 2019 @05:05PM (#20842717)

True, but you still can choose to love one person more than you love the rest :-) After limerence is gone, love is a choice.

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